Friday, January 8, 2010
" The pact of fidelity is not natural but cultural"
As quoted by a psychologist from France. Isn't that the truth. We marry because of love rather than for sex. But we have affairs for sex rather than for love. Right? I do love my husband, maybe more now than I have ever loved him. But I cannot imagine being obligated to have sex for the rest of my life with that one man. To me it is like going to the same location for a vacation year after year after year. It gets boring and although my husband and I's sex life is amazing I still find myself wanting a bit of variety. I don't love the men I hook up with but I do get great satisfaction in being with them. Is it an ego boost or just the knowing that someone else out there wants to be with you. So do I think more marriages out there would be better off opening up their marriages to the possibilities of extra-marital affairs...absolutely. Think of how many marriages would survive the taboo of an affair. I often wish my husband would go out and have an affair as well so that I wasn't the only one. But to suggest that to him would mean that I don't care about our marriage which isn't it at all, this is how he would see it though.
at 12:59 PM