Polyamory (from Greek πολύ [poly, meaning many or several] and Latin amor [love]) is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved.
People who identify as polyamorous typically reject the view that sexual and relational exclusivity are necessary for deep, committed long-term loving relationships. Those who are open to, or emotionally suited for, a polyamorous lifestyle may be single or inmonogamous relationships, but are often involved in multiple long term relationships such as a triad, quad, or intimate network.
In practice, polyamorous relationships are highly varied and individualized. Ideally they are built upon values of trust, loyalty, negotiation, and compersion, as well as rejection of jealousy, possessiveness, and restrictive cultural standards. Such relationships are often more fluid than the traditional "dating-and-marriage" model of long-term relationships, and the participants in a polyamorous relationship may not have preconceptions as to its duration. However, there are polyamorous relationships that last many years and some decades.
Sex is not necessarily a primary focus in polyamorous relationships. Polyamorous relationships commonly consist of people seeking to build long term relationships with more than one other person on mutually agreeable grounds, with sex as only one aspect of their relationship.
I have been struggling again as of late. My husband has been asking where I am at (not sure if I blogged about him much and us, but since seeing FG the sex at home has declined significantly) blah blah ...The thing is, I do see myself with him long term, but I also do see other men in my life as well. I love men and the current relationships I have, and still want to entertain new ones. So with all this talk of Polyamory, I figure now is the time to strike up that conversation with the husband? I did actually mention at dinner last night with our daughter present. Of course, they laughed and thought I was joking! But need to start planting the seed where I can.
So the reason I am struggling, again, is, one, because of the husband questions lately and him professing his utmost trust in me, and the other is my relationship with FG. I love FG and while I do not see being together forever and while he may not be "perfect", I do see myself with him long term, I would love to one day openly have a relationship with him. There is something about him, he lights me up inside. He is someone and something I have never experienced before.
Now you would think that is enough...a great husband who loves me and trusts me, a lover who loves me and wants to be exclusive with me and rocks my world..But the problem is that kiwi continues to persist for a header and a "tittie" viewing, and this week Big wants to hook up (the wife is away), this past weekend I went away with Kat and if the 27 year old hottie was not in love with his girlfriend, I would have hooked up with him, and this week a new AM prospect came up (I unsuspended my account a week ago, and forgot to suspend again...meanwhile winks and messages came in and a couple good ones, and one in particular), I have been chatting with him and am entertaining the idea of meeting him next week when he is in town, and I DON'T WANT TO SAY NO. How can I do this? Why would I do this? It's like there are two of me...the committed long term gal, and then the let's-fly-by the seat of our pants and experience all prospects that are presented. And while I do not feel guilt per se, I do hate the lying and dishonesty. That is why this "polyamorous" word that is flashing about on headlines has caught my eye. Relationships "are built upon values of trust, loyalty..."!!!!! Wow...I could really have my cake and eat it too!
Just some thoughts folks...I know I have likely blogged about this before because it does keep coming up for me. Ah the struggles of an adulteress! Why can't we all just FUCK!
Happy Hump Day all you Ho's out there (don't worry, me included)! (I may be getting some hump later with Big...eek it's been awhile).